One of the best ways to de-escalate a confrontation is to listen carefully to what your partner is saying. You might get defensive and interrupt your partner, or you might get frustrated and start talking over your partner. But if you really listen to your partner, you give them an opportunity to express themselves and you create a safe space for the conversation. You’re also more likely to come up with a solution that works for both of you if you understand your partner’s perspective. When you speak, you should do your best to be empathetic and non-judgmental. You should also ask questions if you’re not sure what your partner is saying. This will help you to build trust and gain a better understanding of the situation.